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Behavioral problems in children cannot be confined to some terminology.It may be more of at raditionalistic or conventionalize approach if we are seeing it as a disease or limiting it to a definition.

It sounds a bit stroppy that if a child is not behaving the way the society wants him to be, he is considered as ill and labelled as a child with “behavioral problems”.

Without understanding the real circumstances and factors, the child who is himself a victim to this situation is often blamed as an offender.It’s important to overcome this blame game and find out a solution that is actually a solution. It’s unfortunate to see modern medicine tranquilizing a hyperactive child in the name of treatment and show the outcome as a calmed down child when he is in a drowsy state. This is not a treatment. It’s just making fool out of us.

What factors may be contributing to child’s behavioral issues

Let’s now see some factors beyond the conventionally mentioned or doctors told causative factors.

Children with so-called “behavior issues” have one thing in common and that is emotional factor.

Every individual in this world is bounded with emotions. Emotions have so many expressions like love, anger, hatred etc. Everyone has his or her own way to prompt this emotion. Sometimes this emotion may become uncontrollable and outburst of feelings may happen. This eruption is actually uncontrolled emotional reaction that may or may not be of liking to our society.This behavior is somewhat is unacceptable to our society and thereby “mentally ill” term crops up.

Problem here is not the emotional outbreak, but the real problem is “comparison”. Different people have different pitch of reactions. Some may go high and some may be subtle. When a person reacts in a subtle way, he is termed as “normal or controlled” and other as a “problematic behavior child or uncontrollable”.

What can be done now to improve the situation?

Well let’s go to basics. Humans evolved to superiority as nature provided conditions favorable to them. Each and every cell of human body has been a contributor to this evolution. Hence,our cell behaves as a unit or a mini factory of nature to run the show. Any change brought about in our cell will definitely have a great impact on our lives. If
the changes are good then it is a progression and if the changes are bad then reversion is required. We need to reset the change to default setting to become normal. This is very similar to default setting button of the mobile or re-installing windows in the virus affected laptop.

To attain the default setting of the cell, something is required that helps to reinstate that equilibrium condition.

Here Dr. Bhavana Jain Agarwal MD (Nidanam Homeopathy) come to your rescue. A seasoned homeopath who understands child’s psychology.Her expertise is in finding a way to meet that lost equilibrium or harmony there by restoring body back to normal.

How this restoration is done

As stated earlier,to keep the body functionality in harmony with nature,it must be tuned back to its original state.Homeopathy believes in the same principle and is able to offer solution in the most apposite way.

Dr. Bhavana has been practicing homeopathy since two decades now and have been able treated more than a thousand of people with bewildering success rate. Homeopathy is a science that helps in making us reach closer to nature. It helps in harmonizing the basic unit of our body.

And boom… this is a disease free condition.

Children respond well to homeopathic treatments. As it is easily acceptable to them. Moreover it has no side effects and no addictive nature as compared to the chemical based medicine.

Dr.Bhavana has successfully treated children with problems officially termed as “behavioral issues”. Below are some of the conditions she has dealt regularly with.

• Inappropriate actions or emotions under normal circumstances
• Learning difficulties that are not caused by another health factor
• Difficulty with interpersonal relationships, including relationships with teachers and peers
• A general feeling of unhappiness or depression
• Feelings of fear and anxiety related to personal or school matters
• Post-traumatic stress disorder
• Obsessive-compulsive disorder
• Generalized anxiety disorder
• Panic disorder
• Easily getting annoyed or nervous
• Often appearing angry
• Putting blame on others
• Refusing to follow rules or questioning authority
• Arguing and throwing temper tantrums
• Having difficulty in handling frustration

If you feel that your kid is facing similar issues, you can consult Dr. Bhavana and get the most suitable remedy for your child.

“My son is getting irritable day by day. He is also gaining weight and lacks attentiveness in school. He has become short tampered and very aggressive. I am extremely worried, he was a calm child earlier but now he is agitated and violent all the time. Can you help me”? A desperate mother puts a call at Nidanam Homeopathy clinic.

“Parents these days are facing such issues and are unable to find a solution for it. Many feel that their child have gone abnormal or some even say that they might be possessed by some entity. Being a mother myself, I could feel the level of desperation and emotional trauma they go through. In most of such cases, the basic cause of the problem is very simple, lack of sleep or disturbed sleeping pattern.” says Dr. Bhavana Jain Agarwal, MD (Nidanam Homeopathy)

Sleep is considers as one of the vital aspects of life. It not only helps in providing serenity but also promotes growth activity of body as well as mind. It can be regarding as a building block of a child’s mental as well as physical health.

According to a recent study, about 25 to 50 percent of toddlers and 40 percent of adolescents have sleeping issue. Hence it is a common problem these days.  

Why sleep is considered important in children?

It is scientifically proved that sleep plays a fundamental role in development of child’s brain. Studies have indicated that sleep contributes to various mental aspects and emotions that are mentioned
below.

1. Happiness/Sadness
2. Alertness/Attentiveness
3. Memory and concentration
4. Attention and reactions
5. Cognitive performance
6. Moods
7. Resiliency
8. Vocabulary
9. Learning skills

What happens when child is unable get ample sleep?

Due to increase in awareness towards mental health especially in children, most of the parents these days pay attention to their child’s psychological condition. Conditions caused due to lack of sleep may mimic ADHD i.e. Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. Sleeplessness may also contribute to lack of concentration and many other mental as well physical developmental aspect of a child.

As per a report by American Academy of Paediatrics, about 25 percent of children below the age of five have disturbed sleep. This has been directly linked to an allergic condition called allergic rhinitis. Their reports also suggest that this lack of sleep may further be linked to conditions of cardiovascular system, diabetes mellitus, high blood pressure and obesity.

In adolescents, chronic disturbed sleep may directly or indirectly affect child academically and may also cause mental health issues and behaviour disorders.

What can be done to improve child’s sleep?

Dr. Bhavana from Nidanam Homeopathy, very often gets cases where kids faces such problems. She recommends certain tips that may prove handy in improving sleep of the child.

Sleep requirements changes with time. Sleeping pattern of a 2 year
old toddler is different as compared to a 13 year of teenager.

1. Improving Bed time routine

First and the foremost thing is to improve the bed time routine of
the child. This has been a one of the most successful methods to improve
sleep.  

A typical bed time routine might include

1. Switching of computers, televisions, video games and other light emitting gadgets.
2. Wearing easy outfits like loose pyjama and night suits.
3. Brushing teeth
4. Reading a story book, singing a lullaby or taking a bath with comfortably warm water.
5. A stuffed toy by the side of a toddle is also a great idea as it makes him feel more secured.

The right time to take your child to bed is when he is sleepy and not after he has slept. This method facilitates a child of developing a habit to sleep by his own. Child should also be taught to be sleep on his own bed rather than sleeping with parents or others bed.

1. Sleep hygiene

This is also an important aspect that is helpful in inducing a good sleep.

1. Design a balanced day schedule for the kid considering his playing and restful time.
2. Schedule a regular and fixed bed time.
3. Bed should be a non-screen zone throughout and any gadget emitting light should not be allowed even during day time.
4. A well balanced diet should be administered.
5. Provide a comfortable and cool environment.
6. Cover windows properly to make the room dark and comfortable for sleep.
7. Try to cover up all the noises from outside to make that place noise free zone.
8. Heavy food stuff, high sugars during bed time should be avoided.

It’s important that a child has a good physical exercise routine but avoid him being over exhaustion should be avoided. Overly tired body is also not good for sleep. Hence it is important to keep a watch on your child’s physical activities while setting his bed time routines.

Sleeping tips for Very Young Babies

Very young babies, as they still have to develop their circadian rhythm, may find it difficult to sleep whole night. If they don’t fall back sleep, it’s natural. Just provide them with a cosier environment and they will be ok with it. They may also cry of hunger or need for a change of a diaper. Just quietly do it and let them fall sleep again to the earliest.

Sleeping tips for toddlers

Toddlers generally require two naps a day. As they are grown up enough to understand miss and fear emotions, they should be dealt different than babies. Their mind can be preoccupied by giving them authorities like their choice of night suit or pyjama, which book to read at bed time etc. Parents should be firm yet loving as kids at this age understands the emotions and responds to them likewise.

Sleeping tips for school going kids

School kids have a busier routine as compared to their previous stages. This may cause difficulty in falling asleep. Try to monitor a steady routine and relaxing periods before bedtime.

It is important to setup a morning routine as well. No doubt it’s always pleasurable to sleep late in mornings but it may also contribute in disturbing the sleeping pattern, thereby try to follow a routine through out to evolve that as a habit.

There are other issues as well that might seems to be insignificant but may contribute immensely in altering sleeping pattern in children. Events like teething, illness, change in place or bed, a new care taker,some minor ailments like cough, colds, ear ache etc. may also contribute to it.

Other Factors are:

1. Night mares and night terrors – young kids and toddlers are often seen to be frightened with some thoughts sketched out of their imagination. Occasionally, a bad dream may wake them up causing disrupted sleep. If such instances happen, calm him down and try to put him back to sleep. Counselling is very important for a kid so as to overcome his wild imaginations. Must council your child about the event that happened last night, the next morning and try to resolve and dissolve the undesired from his mind.
2. Sleep walk and talk – sleep talk is rather one of the most common parasomnia presentation. Sleep talk is generally experienced in light sleep rather in deep. It is advisable therefore that kids have a deep
   sleep to overcome sleep talk. Though not common but yet not that uncommon phenomenon is a sleep walk. Similar to sleep talkers, sleep walkers are also unaware of their problem. They don’t remember anything about their sleep walk/talk episode the moment they wake up. This event cannot be ignored and should be taken care of seriously, it is advised to take a help of a medical professional.
3. Restless leg syndrome – Again it is a common problem that may cause sleeping issues in children. It may also be mistaken with growing pains.It is important to provide proper nourished diet to your child as well as make him do stretching exercises especially bed time. Including iron supplements in his diet may also prove helpful in overcoming this problem.

There are few other factors that may also contribute in disturbing the sleep of your child.

If you still find that in spite following above mentioned measure, the child is not able to sleep properly, Dr. Bhavana can be a great help with her customized homeopathic treatments.

It’s arguably pretty easy to make plans like losing 5 kgs in a month or going to gym regularly or no alcohol from now and bla bla bla… . You must have heard these statements quite often especially in your mind. But the very next day we all know how much we are committed to these statements and end up being big defaulters when it comes to
executing them.

If I am right, there is a reason you have landed up on this blog today. In spite of all your efforts, you always fall short of quitting your tobacco addiction.

Don’t get disheartened. Accept that we all have weaknesses. We are humans and it’s so natural for us to get tempted towards things that are considered a taboo or are not good for us.

So now let’s quickly come to your purpose of visiting this page. We need to get rid of this tobacco addiction.  

It’s tough to remember how that first cigarette turned into a habit and then into addiction. Tobacco has penetrated deep into our lives, first it started as a leisure activity, then as a replacement or substitute of something and now it’s a necessity or addiction. Most of the people with tobacco addiction have substituted it to overcome something and now find it difficult to leave and succumb to tobacco urges. Hence the mission of “NO TOBACCO FROM TODAY” fails miserably.

Dr. Bhavana Jain Agarwal from Nidanam Homeopathy suggests that small steps towards leaving tobacco will always make a big difference. Set goals that are achievable. Let’s now begin with it.

Stimulants or triggers –

This is the first and the biggest culprit that has kept people addicted to tobacco. Our lives in this present era have become so unorganised and stressful. Just as a short cut tool to derive pleasure or a source of overcoming stress, we land up in this tobacco or alcohol
mess.  

Avoid the things that tempt you to consume these addictive agents. Stop going to the places that induces triggers. The places like pubs, bars, parties: where people drink and smoke, works as tempting zones that may lead to breaking your “No Tobacco from Today” promise.

Stress is another causative feature. People tend to fall prey to stimulants and addictives trying to overpower stress. Try avoiding these situations. Try to disappear from such places. This urge is momentary. It will vanish in few moments. All you need is to just escape that moment.

It’s a common sight that people sometimes smoke without even realising that they are smoking. For instance, you get a call from someone, you start talking, you are engrossed in your own world and out of nowhere you realise that there is a cigarette lit in your hand. Avoid such situations. You can evade it by engaging yourself with some pen or
a piece of paper.

 

Chew Something – dodge your brain

It is an activity of taming the mind. Keep the brain engrossed somewhere else. This distraction helps in averting the urge of tobacco/ nicotine. Aromatic substitute like cardamom, fennel seeds etc, may help in stimulating brain with signals similar to that of nicotine and eventually dogging brain.

Delay Strategies –

This strategy has helped people tremendously. It helps in delaying the weedy moment of extreme urge. Once it is conquered it becomes lots more easy to win over these cravings. Keep the tobacco away from your convenience. Keep yourself in no smoking zones or public places where smoking is prohibited for longer duration. You may also convince
yourself in the extreme urge phase to delay it tobacco consumption for 10-15 minutes at least. Such actions help tremendously in derailing the tobacco addiction cravings.

Work out the cravings –

Physical activities and exercises no doubt are the best ways to counter cravings. Physical activities help in increasing the serotonin levels. Serotonin helps in over shadowing nicotine cravings. Go for a jog or a brisk walk, or do some squats or push-ups, stairs climbing is also helpful. Physical activities works as a distraction hence is
helpful.

Don’t fall prey –

Don’t fall prey to trap “Just One more” or “Just one”. This trap can turn out to be a monster trap. Firm your mind and follow it. Don’t even try it for once even causally.

Relax – take a chill pill

Keeping oneself calm and relaxed is extremely beneficial. Inhibiting habitual tobacco intake may cause stress and panic. These are in reality the withdrawal symptoms of nicotine as body has become dependent. Go
for a spa, or swimming, or watch your favourite sports or movie. The basic idea is to give your mind some relaxation. This encourages in overcoming the deterrent caused due to nicotine addiction.

Learn from others’ experience –

Internet has made this world a small place. With this tool, interaction and communication has become easy. One can visit related forums, or read blogs or go to social media sites and find people who overcame these addictions and know more about their journey to a clean body. These interaction help in understanding these conditions better.

Talk talk and just talk –

This is another fantastic tool that can create your journey uncomplicated and eventful. Keep discussing with your family and friends about experiences and shortcomings during the cleansing process of the body. There are help lines numbers available in almost all the countries who offer support and counselling to people to seek help in quitting
addictions (800-784-8669 for USA). You can Google it to find for your country if you don’t stay in USA.

Happy days coming soon –

Constantly remind yourself about happier life without addictions. Think of no cough days, no nicotine smells that were keeping your near dear ones away from you. Cleaner body means improved health, lesser
risks of heart diseases and cancer, increased immunity to fight diseases. Moreover you save money that can be used for getting your new clothes, games etc. and list goes on. 

Consult the Expert

Dr. Bhavana Jain Agarwal M.D. (Nidanam Homeopathy) is credited with numerous appreciations and awards for her contribution in curing people from various ailments and addictions. One of them is tobacco de-addictions. People have benefitted a lot with her medications and advices. You can also consult her regarding your concerns and medical help.

In this blog Dr. Bhavana illuminates why kids get physical when they are angry, how their behavior get saltered and how they can be relieved from such a self-destructive state. But first let’s see who is an “Angry Child”.

“I stand and watch helplessly, looking at my five year old cute darling baby screaming and kicking the floor of living area for not getting a candy or ice-cream. Her fists are clenched and teeth gritting with trembling jaws and bloody red face.” Sonia Sharma, one of the parent having an angry child.

These dramatic and sometimes chilling situations are common sights nowadays. Even the parents are open to endure the tantrums of the child to avoid their kid landing in this state. Rather than working out on the situation, few parents tend to defend their child’s behavior and later find themselves in a huge mess.

In a view defending child may seem to be all-right but with this cover-up they may missing one of the most important child’s mental condition known as Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) or commonly called as Angry Child Disorder.

It’s always tough for any parent to unearth any messy mental condition of their Child’s. But it is equally important to take right measures at right time to have a happy future. Let’s learn ways to know more about child’s mental health.

Are we raising an angry child?

It is a common belief that if a child gets angry on petty issues by-default he is considered as short tempered kid. Somehow his behavior also gets acceptance in society. But no one ever tries to understand that how he developed that boiling temperament.  There are reasons for a child to be impatient, intolerant or even aggressive when they are not happy. Dealing with such an aggressive or hot headed child may be a formidable task for the family.

It may sometimes be OK for a toddler to throw temper tantrums around or a pre-school er for his infrequent aggressiveness.But it is always essential for a parent to keep a watch and evaluate his behavior. If any abnormality is seen in child’s behavior, it is advised to seek a professional help. Let’s look upon some areas that indicate that child needs help.

Difficulty with relationships

Getting in a physical fight with sibling or calling some elderly with a name once a while in anger may be considered as normal. However if child’s fuming nature inhibits him from being friends with others or restricts himself from developing a healthy relationship with family members, it’s a time to look into the matter seriously.

Disruptions in family matters

If your child’s aggressiveness or his anger is constantly a part of interruption in your family matters, it’s not healthy for any one. One should look seriously into the matter and find out the reasons why child is behaving so ineptly.

Aggression

Unspoken, but there are certain boundaries in the course of achieving something from others.Aggression may be considered the last resort. But if the kid implements it as his first option, then there is a big
problem. When the child feels incompetent of resolving his issues, he may consider this aggression as a suitabletool to reach out to his needs and desires. Here the matter becomes grim and seeks immediate attention.

Immature behavior

Toddler’s tantrums are the cutest or hilarious things to watch but
what if a reasonably grown up child behaves like a toddler or shows the similar tantrums, then this behavior needs to be addressed urgently. The kid must grow and behaves at his age. If the child’s tantrums are
getting worse day by day then, it’s time to consult some professional as child is finding it difficult to regulate his emotions.

Frequent frustrations

With age, child must cope up with the frustrating activities around him. If a child’s frustration al reactions are becoming un pleasant with his age, he needs help. It can be assessed easily. If an eight year old child, throws his toys when his creations like puzzles or building blocks etc. topples or some ten year old child throws his note books
around finding it difficult to learn some lesson. It is a situation where he is not able to cope up with his frustrations and needs help.

Dr.Bhavana speaks on the angry child issues

These days we can see lots of children facing problem of anger and seek help for its management. Our clinic in routine, gets lots of parents who are worried about their children’s anger and un pleased reactions.

Let discuss what can be done to resolve these issues.

Accept your Child’s anger

Whenever a child roars with anger, say “I can see you are angry” and if you have the reason behind that outburst say “I can see you are angry, as you love playing in the park but we have to leave for home for now, we will come here tomorrow.” Accept the anger of your child. Make them comfortable by saying “I can understand the reason for your anger”. Try to communicate with emotional aspect and ask them that it is OK to express their dissent on an issue.

Encourage them to speak up about their problem or dissent

“Children naturally do not know how to phrase their angers and dissent in words. You need to teach them to be vocal about their problem. Guide them with words that they can use to express their feeling.” explains Dr.Bhavana.

Try to connect with them and say “I really want to hear what are you feeling right now, I will be able to understand you better if you speak it up and then we will be able to find solution to it.”.

In a reverse situation where you yourself are offended with the child say “I am angry with you”. This way child would gradually start adapting the rules laid by you. By the age of six, child develops another emotion that may be called as “superego”, which may act as a halt signal for showing up undesired tantrums and helps them to control their aggressive outburst.

Try to reach out the positive solution that is understood by kid

Since centuries, tantrums are considered as manifested blackmailing reactions by a child to achieve his needs or desires. Melting down to every demand of the child may have risk of spoiling him,as it can be used as a tool all the time to dictate his terms. In contrary to it, it is equally important to understand the child’s psychology. Hence a
balance should be kept in such a way that peace prevails. Child needs help in coming out of the emotional distress known as anger. He should not be left to drown in the weakened emotional state of his mind.

Try to work on the solution like, “offer him strawberries instead of some high calorie candies he is demanding in place of dinner or strategize a way by playing indoors if it’s raining outside and he is adamant of going out to play”. To make him escape the dreadful condition,he should be given manipulated or altered options so that he is
distracted from that adamant state.

Ease the situation before it becomes a problem

It’s better to hold the moment before it gets switched to anger. Fade off the tantrum on its onset by reacting like “let’s see or let’s discuss” rather than directly saying “no”. It serves two purpose, one, to ease down the moment and second, it gives sufficient time to respond to the issue. Moreover, the child gets an impression that he is been heard and acknowledged. This helps in winning his trust and he considers us more reliable. 

Sometime change in place may also eases down the heavy moment. You may say “let’s go for a ride or let’s buy some hair clips for you, we’ll discuss the matter in the way”

Define boundaries

While conveying the massage “it’s OK to be angry” set some boundaries like “Its OK to be angry but you cannot break the toy or hit your sister” tell them that damaging something or hurting someone is wrong. This way child gets a message that he is not allowed to do wrong to others.

Above article has benefited thousands of concerned parents and has helped them to better their child’s behavior. If you still need a professional advice you can consult Dr.Bhavana Jain Agarwal MD. (Nidanam Homeopathy).